For one reason or another, we receive a large number of emails from Asian men who are looking to improve their game. Apparently there are a lot of scammers on the internet selling non-sense tricks on how to fix your sex life, as you can imagine, there are no tricks. You need to grind and make adjustments based on how you are being perceived. Since this is a common email, we will go ahead and try to break it down to a usable science since sociology and ethnic studies courses never offer solutions.
History: Before we begin with our advice we will go ahead and prove we sat in the same feminist empowered useless sociology and ethnic studies courses that you have had to endure (assuming you attended university). If you are Asian, you are taught the following about yourself 1) you’re perceived as foreign, 2) de-sexualized by the media, 3) seen as frail – not powerful, 4) seen as innately good at mathematics & wealthy and 5) uptight and unhappy. To hammer in the point, they make you write multiple essays and papers on “Racial Triangulation”, diagram below.
Notably, this is one of the worst regurgitation jobs you will ever endure. If you do not regurgitate their belief system, you will not receive a passing grade so by all means, do not ruffle feathers in these group think courses.
Finally, as we have mentioned before, we don’t believe in a racial hierarchy and encourage that everyone believe in a flat racial structure because the alternative thought process encourages racism: white men are told all their accomplishments are due to “privilege”, black men angrily compete with the “foreign” Asians for jobs and Asian men blame any poor results with women on the media and being seen as un-American. The elephant in the room? Complaining and pointing fingers is encouraged after graduating from these courses.
With that said, the one positive takeaway is that you now have a blueprint for success. Breakdown the belief system.
Foreign Perception: The stereotypical image of being fresh off the boat or a FOB is certainly not positive. We are not PC and don’t beat around the bush. Instead we offer a step-by-step process to fixing this perception: get professional speech help, rearrange your living situation to appear Americanized, change your dietary habits in the kitchen to reflect American culture and take up American fashion.
Notably, astute readers will realize that we are suggesting assimilation, which is 90% true. During your coursework you learn that Asians don’t tend to assimilate, so the answer of course is to assimilate. Keep photos of your travels to Asia (if you have been), keep a few choice items that reflect Asian culture, however a first impression of your appearance should be American-Asian.
We will likely receive a lot of negative feedback as we suggest assimilation, however this is the case in any culture you visit if you hope to improve upon your circle of friends. If you were to move from America to Asia we would strongly suggest learning the language and adjusting some mannerisms to suggest you live there. The key is in bold, the adjustment is to simply give off a vibe or impression that you are living in the States.
De-Sexualization: The second perception to tackle, once your immediate impression is positively American, is to overhaul your vibe. Knowing that you’re generally being perceived as boring and uptight, you should strive to the other end of the spectrum for the time being. We’ve spoken to this before: brighter clothing, singing, dancing and a confident positive projecting voice.
If you want to accelerate this process… Get a black wing. We know a pair of guys who have gone out for many years together and tear up the scene since their personalities feed off each other, which makes sense once you break down the stereotypes being canceled out. Again, here are the stereotypes we’re referring to: Black (big & dangerous) vs. Asian (small & safe), Black (aggressive) vs. Asian (conservative), Black (poor) vs. Asian (rich), Black (large dick) vs. Asian (small), Black (American) vs. Asian (foreign) and finally Black (deep voice) vs. Asian (nasally). Can anyone take a guess as to what happens if these two men walk into a club dressed sharp with some cash in their pocket? Positive interest will be peaked and this is half of the battle.
Being Seen as Frail: The answer is quite obvious here. Lift. The trick is you’ll notice that the vast majority of Asian men lift improperly as they suffer from thickness without definition. Below is an example of a guy doing it wrong and a guy doing it right. The man on the viewers far right is a much better role model.
For those that are already lifting weights, the man on the viewers left is what you will generally see circling the gym 24/7/365 as they lift with improper form at all times and have a bulky look that is aesthetically unattractive.
Good at Math and Rich: Similar to our basic post on why rich guys don’t get laid instead of trying to show off your wealth and intelligence… Do the opposite. Hide it. People will assume you are smart and well off from hello so the best course of action is to be humble/hide the fact that you are. Even if you are neither let them run with this belief automatically, as your vibe should be Type B and conflict with the negative stereotypes they will try to place upon you.
Uptight and Angry: This last piece is more of a list of do not’s versus do’s relative to the game community. The worst thing you can possibly do is be uptight, boring or angry. You will immediately trigger the intense person vibe which will cripple your chances at ever breaking into a good social circle. Your motto should be the following “life is a joke”.
- Do not take yourself seriously this will throw up an immediate red flag
- Do not allow a conversation to steer into logical topics (numbers, stats, facts
- Do not allow yourself to judge anyone in the room
Concluding Remarks: You can try to incorporate each one of these steps one at a time but it will take a large amount of time to execute on all of them. Continue to look around you and take note of what everyone else is doing… and do the reverse. Go out alone if your close friends view you as uptight (they will be positively shocked at your confidence) and push every day outside of your comfort zone which is simply another form of fear and worry.
You can burn all of those sociology and ethnic studies books today, they never gave you any actionable information in the first place, so don’t let their negativity seep into your core belief system.
We were not surprised to see a commented hint at this dynamic when describing his Malaysian friend with “black guy swag”.